Children are removed from their homes and placed in foster care situations every year. The reasons are varied. Some may have parents who abused or neglected them. Perhaps their parents have died or are otherwise unable to care for them.
Whatever the reason, these children and adolescents have been uprooted from their lives to live in a scary and unfamiliar place. They may be separated from siblings in addition to being removed from their parents. They are likely angry, frightened, and unsure of what is going to happen next.
Teachers often wonder how they can make this difficult time easier for students. Here are some suggestions:
Provide Stability
For new foster children, school may be the most constant and stable place they have. Familiar people and routines will help to comfort a student who has just had his life turned upside down. Try to keep changes in routine to a minimum.
Be sure to take the time to provide the student with positive individual attention each day. Special attention from a known and trusted adult will help him during this transition, and the increased contact will help staff recognize signs that a student may need more support.
Stay Flexible
Recognize that right now, academics may not be this student's number one priority. She may need extra support in the form of extra time, special study sessions, or extended deadlines. Don't lower expectations, but provide the assistance that will help the student be successful.
Be aware, too that the student may have difficulty obtaining special supplies or arranging transportation to afterschool activities. Provide assistance where possible, and never make her grade dependent on such things. It's unfair, and will cause unnecessary stress for the student.
Stay Neutral
Regardless of the circumstances, refrain from making any derogatory remarks about the student's parents or family. Not only is it unprofessional, but it's hurtful to the student.
If he expresses anger towards family members, reflect his feelings and be empathic, but don't jump on the bandwagon. Its natural for kids to have conflicting feelings about their family members in such situations, but it's not our place to pass judgment.
Make Connections
Align with the new foster parents as soon as possible so you can work together to support the student. Share classroom routines and expectations, and help provide foster parents with whatever tools they will need to help the student.
Though these parents may only be temporary, they are still your best ally in helping your student stay on track. Keep in touch with foster care caseworkers and counselors as well, so everyone can work together for the benefit of your student.
Finding ways to help a student in foster care can help make a difficult transition a little smoother.
By providing the support and stability he needs, you can make a difference.
Susan Carney - I have been working as a middle school counselor with 6th and 7th grade students for the past thirteen years. I received a BA in ...
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